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Of Marriages and Happy moments.

"Humans.. The most evolved form of living being.."

At least that’s what most people say and believe as said to them by the Priest and proven by scientists. But what if the evolution is out of control?  Now don’t think "Uh? Out of control?? Isn’t it good to evolve?" Well, I say that the humans are evolving without any limits and the bans and impositions, Rules and restrictions, Self control and art of living, everything goes to shame when ‘This’ happens..

And what I mean by ‘This’ is a marriage. Not just another marriage, not even Love marriage nor inter-caste marriage, Not even a Hi-Fi Girl from New York City marrying a Tribal African boy from Zambia, but something that is known to people as ‘Gay Marriages’

Well yes I know that this is not the Indian type, we are sticklers to tradition and are thus known as "laggers" literally but they call us "Developing nation". Here I am not degrading India, I am proud that we are not infected with such ideas of marriage. We may be laggers but we have not lost our humanity, We did not go mad in the name of evolution, We have Sanskar and have values that are taught to us through generations. Here I do not want to start Another-boring-lecture, rather I want to highlight how fortunate we are to have our old traditions saving us from that disgust. Again its totally personal issue whether you marry a boy or a girl.

You must have read an SMS that goes something like this..

Mothers in

1980 – Hamari caste ki ladki se hi shaadi karna

1990 – Hamari Religion Ki

2000 – Hamari desh Ki

2011 – Kamine!!! Ladki se hi shaadi karna!!!!

______________________________________________________________________________________

Well how does it sound? funny? Well we laugh and have every right and freedom to do so, You know why? because we are protected by our Sanskar.

Normally in our History, I can remember as far as I can is the first Inter-Caste marriage was between Jodhaa and Akbar, Inter-State ? It was between the Son of the king of England and the Daughter of the King of France. And here we are fighting telling that Love marriages are not ethical even if everything matches (Here everything includes Horoscope and Same religion and caste, and all the formalities fulfilled.) Yet they say that Love marriage is a total failure and arranged marriage is far better.

Let me list down the Pros and cons of both the types of marriages, or at least what I think of them.

First everyone’s favourite, Love marriage

Pros :

– Better understanding and co-ordination

– Better scope for Planning in finance and life

– Have trust on partner not to desert you if in case of any unfortunate events in life

– There will be hope and a reason to live

– Someone to be with you always even at death

– Most important is our choice of person and the other person prefers a person like me

Cons :

– Little misunderstanding will lead to breakups and 95% of them are not happy and do not have the happy life they dreamt of

– Parents and elders will object to it

– No support from elders in case of breakups

 

Now how about a partner selected by elders?

Pros :

– No objection and people around you will be happy

– Adjustment will not be a big problem

Sanskari and you will get support from parents in case of breakups

– Breakups are very less

Cons :

– You may not like the person

– You will live for someone but not with a reason

– You will not be satisfied (thoe the elders ask you a million times you still tell a lie)

– Partner may marry you for personal reasons and once they get what they want they apply divorce

 

Marriages that are inter-caste etc. are for business or political purposes in general.

But what if the humans are advancing? imagine a boy marrying another boy?? or due to female foeticide lets say Arjun and Ram marry Shiela ??

Well the possibilities and probabilities and combinations are being explored by scientists (or at least I hope so that they will find a solution even if we know a solution already)

 

Well I have my personal opinion, Why not club both the pros and eliminate the cons? (easy to say eh?)

Yes there is a solution, its called as ‘Love after Marriage’. Ok here we go..

Take your time and select the person you like from the choices you are given and start loving after marriage. Satisfies both, Love and agreement from parents and there is a reduction in breakup level coz you love each other, so nothing to bother about.

Lets go to the other phase..

Recently at Kylie Minogue concert (Australia) a man came up the stage and proposed another man in front of the whole crowd that was cheering for them and the man happily accepted it!! (Even animals will not do that im sure of it!!)

Well, If that was the case in India.. (Imagine yourself about the parents of the couple!!)

The parents would say “Abe kamine!!! kitni baar bola kia karna ki ladki se hi shaadi karna bolke?” (or something worse?) and when you see the comments under the video, Most comments read “Australian government must change its laws and make gay marriages legal” well the first time they were made legal was in New York.

Well in what way will you call it as an alternative in the near future? But I must say that at the current rate of female foeticide, it is an alternative that everyone must consider with open mind or they may leave this world peacefully. India is such a place where we are against girl child. Why? Due to rising costs of marriage and all.. Just coz of money they give away life? is money worth more than life? can you live by eating money? can you build house with money? one rain and everything will go wasted. So do not waste your life and time accept what comes in your path, and Love it, That is the best possible way to lead life happily.

Well India is such a country where you get pizza delivered faster than police or ambulance, a place where people pray to goddess Saraswati for education and Lakshmi for money and Durga for courage but never want a female child, a place where the Olympic shooter gets rich in just firing two shots and the real shooters who are in the army protecting us get meagre wages and a place where people want government jobs but hate to go to government offices, and the list goes on and on..

The world is evolving and we must evolve too but we must know our limits and must live like true humans thanks to our Sanskar that protects us from such cheap thoughts.

So accept life as it is and love it, You will find that you will feel short of nothing, and find happiness all around. Sometimes you wonder how people with greatest of worries are happier than we who have lower level of worries and are not happy, the very simple reason is that they find happiness in every little chance they get and we fail to do the very same. Imagine the happiness of the gays.. just like another couple but its just that there are two persons of same sex rather opposite and they are finding happiness in that, whereas we find sorrow even if a small moment opposes us and we miss many moments of happiness just because we worry about the sad moment so much that we devote the moments worth being happy to sorrow.

So lets show the world that we are the people who can make life better, happier and more beautiful.

A more civilized and ethical life full of freedom and ethical values.

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Interviews.. What I learnt..

Everyone here tries to get good marks for a good job, a dream life and a dream home. But how many of us take it seriously that getting good marks alone is not enough if you don’t have a set of soft skills? Ok, You got soft skills, but then what if you are not able to tackle the little exam called placement or Interview?

Well, its not as hard as you think, as you can see that the people who select you are humans too, they know that not everyone is perfect, oh and they are not as bad as you think (exceptional cases).

So, at times like this, just chill don’t panic, if not here, you will get elsewhere, remember that you will be placed somewhere but just the time is not right so wait patiently and hone your skills.

 

Let me come straight to the point,

First things first, When you are going to your interview what will you need?

Neat dress.. say formals that are pressed and clean then polished shoes, trimmed nails, brushed teeth so that you won’t smell bad, and a nice set of soft skills.

Do you think this is enough? Are you not forgetting something important?

Yes you are!! You forgot your resume..

Well you must be thinking that you sent your resume far before this interview right? yes but you were lucky to be called in. But remember a resume is your first impression about yourself to the company’s HR team.

Here is what I can tell you about resume..

Treat resume like you are writing a love letter (yes I know what you are thinking, but you have to..), write in such a way that the person reading it will want to meet you in person and know more about you. Don’t use flashy fonts, styles and Wordart making it tough for the person to read it, if he has way too many applications, he will just trash your application to the side and forgotten.

Here is what you can do..

First do a research on the company you are going to apply for and if possible know the HR team and do a little research on them too.

Know for what post you are applying for, and Put all your skills that you think is required for that particular post first then put your other skills in the latter part of the resume.

Be honest about what you know and try to avoid writing your weakness. Write your strengths and positives but when you are asked for your weakness just tell them that your weakness is/are your focus areas and give them some, not all, and make sure that you give out your weakness lesser than your strengths. If you give your weakness more than your strengths, your chances of being selected starts to reduce.

Remember to put date and update your resume at your every achievement.

Do not use flashy colours in your resume, use simple black and white. font size about 10 or 12 and make sure that you use both sides of the paper, and your resume must not cross 2 pages max 3. 2 pages = 1 paper = both sides. (shows your resourcefulness).

Do not use sms jargons like ya instead of yes or u instead of you etc. Write it in such a way like you are writing to your lover but remember this is a resume and no poems strictly like in real time letters, keep it clean and simple.

Include in the following order (or any order that you think is good enough)

– your name (little bolder than the rest of the resume but not too much)

– your contact details

– your objectives (try to make the company’s objectives as your objectives)

– your qualifications

– your skill sets

– other certifications

– references if any

– your other skills like hobbies etc. (don’t include stupid ones like watching t.v. or movies or eating and stuff..)

Some companies would like to go green, so take the files that are not made of plastics etc. that harm the environment.. Gives a better impression about you.

Put up a smile on your face and be cool, wear the dress that you are comfortable in (no not the jazzy or flashy ones that you wear to college or parties, just regular formals).

Wear light coloured clothes, And make yourself comfortable, reach the venue approximately 15 minutes early, don’t come way too early like an hour ago (shows that you got no work at all!!). Neither come late. No need to follow strict military time (I will be there at 8:59 sharp if the interview is at 9). Come some time early so that you get some time to get adjusted with the surroundings and are comfortable there.

So now here everything is set, oh and don’t forget to take couple of copies of your resume there, it will come handy.

So now that you are there, and you are going to face the interviewer, No need to worry, he is a human too.

There are various types of interviewers,

some are..

– HARI (yes, like the one from naukri.com AD) way rude and not good to you,

– Good guys

interviewers like HARI are way tough to crack, so no need to be like the guy applying there, but be as cool as he is and just give him your resume and tell him that he can go through it when ever he wishes to and tell to contact you when he wants to hire you.

the good guys can be impressed easily, Give them the best of yours, and they will consider you.

There are times when you are in a situation where you don’t know the answer, don’t hesitate, just tell him that you don’t know but tell him how will you go about solving it as well, shows your eagerness to solve it.

When under pressure take a deep breath and ask for permission to cool yourself down for couple O’ seconds, don’t take way too long time, max 5 to 10 seconds and be cool again and be ready with answer. He is just testing your performance when under stress so he is not bad.

Always try to be cool and keep up a smile when he asks you real time situations, say for example,

Your colleague is smoking and you want him to stop what will you tell him in such a way where you must not use the word ‘You’ since using that word will hurt him,

Don’t think much the answer is to use ‘I’

Put it this way, I am not well with so much smoke around me as it affects my health.

It wont hurt him rather it sends him the message that you are not comfortable with he smoking.

or just leave the place with a simple “I got some work now Ill see you later.”

Avoid biting lips or nails, or hands in your pocket or having crossed arms, they deliver bad signs about you to the interviewer.

NEVER ask for the job profile (if you have received the call letter or mail where the job description is already mentioned. Go through the mail couple of times and pick the important ones that you think will help you claim that job.)

you can ask him like this when in doubt “I would like to know more about the job profile as the one I got in mail is not clear” only when he gives you a chance to ask him something, always avoid asking this question.

Never ask for the sake of asking.

There a girl asked a good question “I am a fresher and beside me is sitting a 5 year experienced person how can i beat him?”

Well the key to that is you must be confident but not over confident, keep your cool, and try your best, if the interviewer is good, he will select you over him if you are more humble than he is, but being humble is not being servant or bootlicker, give respect and keep cool and mind your words, they must never harm anyone.

When asked political or religious questions, just dodge them.

When you enter the room always ask for permission and give him a hand shake (don’t crush or give a loose one, neither give just your fingers which ladies do, its irritating.) and shake hands only for two times then release. If you are gent ok, if you are a lady and are not comfortable giving your hand, give out the traditional Indian “Namastey”.

Do not sit unless told to,

When leaving give a smile and say “Thank you” and never “Thanks” or anything. Just ‘Thank You’ sir/madam.

That is all for now, If i remember anything else, I will update it, Don’t forget to give in points as well that I can include here, Will help people and gives me chance to learn as well..

All the best..

Life : In my own words..

Life.. what is life? something that is valuable and more dearer than anything on earth to a living thing? Is it something that is a mixture of happiness, anger, love, hate, feeling, sadness…? Or is it just a monotonous duties performed machine like by living things?

Well the definitions may go on and on depending on the person who experiences life in his own way.

Let me tell you what I think about life,

Life when it is there, sure there is the opposite called Death that  just cannot be avoided, so why not enjoy all the things you have and die happily. Do good to people, go on a world tour, Party on with friends, and throw money in the air because even if you offer all the money in the world death will come so why worry?? we worry is it because that we part away from our near and dear ones? or is it because we just are afraid of all our bad deeds that might lead us to hell? either way, you have to pay for your misdeeds and receive boons for your good deeds.

And I think that humans can be happier right after reading a short story I don’t remember exactly but i know the gist of which goes like this..

There was a young man, one day he went into the ocean and met a merman. He had a nice talk with him(merman) and asked about the life there, the merman told the man to follow him and try to take a look at his world. First he saw that there were a house full of people who were making merry, the man asked ‘Why are these people making merry?’ the merman replied ‘because one of us died.’

Man : what!! but why??

Merman : We are happy because one of us have reached the heaven and has met god. Isn’t it a good news when one reaches heaven?

Man : Ok. But in our world people cry. because if he was the daily breadwinner who will be there to take care of his family. so they cry in grief

after some more time of roaming they pass through a house full of people crying.

Man : Why are these people crying?

Merman : Because there is a birth of a child there.

Man : Isn’t it a happy occasion?

Merman : No, Because he was sent back to earth from heaven since he must have done something bad there.

Man : Ok. But we make merry since a child is our future.

At the end of the day, they bade farewell and went in to their own worlds.

—–END OF THE STORY—–

What I derived out of this little story was that there is something happy to be about in life. Think for a second and see. When a person dies in a house, the members of the house cry saying ‘Who will take care of me now?’ but never say ‘Thank you for taking care of me all the while you lived’ or no one will throw a party since they reached heaven because of their good deeds. Why so selfish?

When a child is born, the parents are the happiest ones. They get responsibility to take care of the child and make sure that the child is independent on its own. And they throw a party for the well being of the child where people around come and bless him for a better life here in earth.

Just give it a thought and you will find that there always will be something happy to be about.

you can get more examples,

A couple broke up, that is a sad news but look at the brighter side, had they been together there would have been no peace, now that they broke up they have chances of finding better partners.

well, that wont convince you?

lets take it this way, An individual lost his job, so? he must be happy with the hope that he will find a better job than the one he was working.

fine, this will not be applied in every case, Think of a student who failed an exam, What will be the brighter side? absolutely nothing. But i say there is one. It surely did not give him hope but it taught him a lesson saying ‘You do not fit here, better turn back before its too late. Go and join where you can excel.’

well now I hope you can have really a positive look towards life Smile

Now to part two of this post. Life according to me..

Take birth, Study, make friends, relatives and enemies, get a job, earn money, marry, have kids, give them education, marry them off, let them have kids and enjoy with your grandchildren then die.

Is life that simple? Well that is what I think so. What makes life interesting? well here is another life that is quite interesting.

Take birth, Study, make friends, relatives and enemies, get a job, earn money, love, run away from home and marry, have kids, give them education, marry them off, let them have kids and enjoy with your grandchildren then die.

well, except for that “”love and running away from home and marrying” how else can you make life interesting? well that may sound very tough for the ones going through, interesting for onlookers and gossipers, painful for parents, entertaining for relatives who are sadists but a responsibility for those who think that the parents should forgive what their kids did.

Ok, Another life,

Life of a terrorist. (Interesting isn’t it? Smile with tongue out)

Take birth, Practice your religious laws, try to impose it, kill the ones who resist, die.

how is it? short eh? no worries just one goal in life.

Life of a professional

Take birth, achieve something small, love it and make it your passion, practice your passion as your career and achieve something big, Marry, have kids and grandchildren, be a role model for newbies, get old and retire, die.

My life?

its a bit of time that is worth sharing with you. Open-mouthed smile

Take birth, roam towns and cities and study, meet people, grow up, get confused for what to do in life, decide to die every week until you meet some nice friends and give you eagerness to live for another week to meet them, that’s all for now. I am still 19 so please lets leave it here. (No I am not escaping, I just don’t know what will happen after that).

I remembered Kishore Kumar’s song “zindagi ek safar hai suhana”

the lyrics go this way..

“Zindagi ek safar hai suhana
Yahan kal kya ho kisne jaana”

Well i totally agree with him, especially with the word ‘suhana’ because life is so smooth and has become something that must be completed only in a specific way as defined. Easy isn’t it if my life is defined that way, No worries of astrology or numerology since I know what will happen with me Open-mouthed smile.

What if that is the case with every person on earth? astrology and numerology will lose market and they start shutting down businesses since people are no longer curious about their future and they just can’t make any money there, so they shift their profession to something else. Or they may start protesting that they are losing their business because a 19 year old kid told what will happen to everyone what will their future be without knowing any of those professional techniques but hey wait, there are people like me who still don’t know about future so don’t worry, you will never lose business as long as you hold the talent to tell lies the genuine way.

For those who are struck and have no idea what to do in life? try this. Take birth, study, and take your passion for your career, become a professional and do a love life. I guarantee you that you will have the most interesting life. This is a free advice so support not provided Winking smile try this at your own risk.

So friends, I just want to tell you that there is a lot of things that you can enjoy even when sad, Try to pick on how happy you can be rather searching for the bad ones you already got. Let me put it this way, there is a glass of water, You drank it half and kept it on the table, one person says ‘the glass is half empty’ and another person says ‘It is half full’. They are pessimist and optimist respectively, The pessimist tells ‘you already drank half a glass of water, what will you do when you are thirsty again?’ whereas the optimist tells ‘that is a good choice, if ever you are thirsty again, you got another half a glass to quench thirst’. Just the same way, try to find happiness in every second of life and you will find that you start to love life and live a happy life. Smile

Kids.. when you hear the word ‘kids’ what comes to your mind usually? Little children playing in a park or garden, all together, laughing, enjoying, making merry, no feeling of caste or religion, moving and helping around like brothers and sisters?

Well that was when? before computers came into our lives? before science evolved?

Children, who must be the very kids of our dreams and thoughts are not the same now, we teach them to make friends, they make friends not just around their home and school but make friends who they never met in life. Hope you got by now what i am talking about, Social Networking, which in itself has its own pros and cons and is a part of technology. But here we are discussing the very detailed aspects of technology, so to start with, I will start with Social Networking.

Kids make friends fast and as they get to know a lot about computers that has become the basic education a threat if used extensively but a boon if used under control. They create accounts with Social Networking sites and make friends which is good, but also learn things that they are not supposed to at such an early age and take wrong directions of life. I knew of a girl when I was using Skype, she was just a 10 year old kid and was unhappy coz her boyfriend told her not to talk to him again. Now I tried to tell her that she is way too young for all that and try to concentrate on enjoying the life she has and do something, she said she would but god knows now what might have happened.

Technology, makes kids get attracted to anything that is full of colours and get addicted to the entertainment that they get from technology from computers to PDA and what not.

They have good knowledge of computers and technology and indeed are more fortunate than the older generation but the very technology that teaches them also ruins them. It has vast information open for all the people that is not categorised and protected properly.

Since they are addicted to the entertainment, they get to lose patience easily since technology does their work in moments and when time comes for them to wait and listen patiently, they fail. What I mean is to listen. Listen to what parents want to say, but it is the fault of the parents to start comparing the older generation with the one of their kids, the generation of kids is very fast and is highly developed unlike the older generation, kids don’t meet each other. If at all they want to convey something they just put in a SMS or meet them online in Social Networking sites and to play games? they don’t go out anymore, they play games from computer, and reduced physical activity increases obesity and finally leading to bad health in later stages of life.

The above mentioned crisis is fuelled by the older generation who control the government that is way too corrupt and neglect the parks and gardens around the locality and finally no place for kids but road to play that is full of traffic and pollution again in turn affecting their health.

Technology thus gave them a media alternative to that but is addictive enough that the kids lose patience and refuse to listen to lectures. Lectures by parents must not be like just-another-boring-speech-after-school. Once they get that they will never listen to their parents and when they are forced away from technology they turn violent.

Technology gives access to various information that is as mentioned above is for everyone and is not categorised and protected, when searching for some information kids may stumble upon sites with adult content and get hooked even more towards the technology that is not supposed to be.

I am sure that there will soon come a day when in schools kids are taught :-

– Parts of a book : Pages, Cover, Index..

– What is a book : A device that contains information that is organised by the first page called index and requires no power to use it.

– What is a Park : A park is a place where children go and play that is no longer existent now.

the list may go on..

It is not just with Social Networking, but Social Networking is the beginning of it, video sites like YouTube take up considerable time watching songs and constantly spending their money to upgrade their PC or the “Technological Hardware” so that they can be on par with everyone else, then they start to ask money from their parents, steal money and go into wrong ways.

As stated above kids lose patience if they are with technology that is faster than their parents or any human they meet, start to question their parents on ethics and when tried to explain about it, will get irritated since they consider that they have their own generation and they have their own set of rules and the old rules will not apply. Little do they know that certain ways of life never change with the passing of time, yet they consider it old and out-dated and finally turn deaf ears to the ethics and their grand parents who try to explain them.

Kids who must be taught the right and wrong, think that they are matured enough to take their own decisions and ignore the elders.

I personally know that elders can be boring but the lesson they teach are most invaluable and we never get to hear them again once they are gone, and they are the last carriers of our traditions and customs which they fail to impart, and the kids refuse to take in and finally heading nowhere.

There are better ways through which the traditions and lessons can be imparted if employed by the elders will ensure their child’s safety and future.

– Discuss and tell the very boring topic in an interesting way.

Kids are curious at exciting things.

so take the most advantage of that. Start with “Do you know….”

never tell “When we were in your age…”

if at all you want to use “When we were in your age..” tell something like this..

“When I was of your age i could type way faster than you can now”

or

“When i was of your age I could run 10 kilometres nonstop”

those will encourage the competitive spirit in the kids as kids want to be better than the ones around them. Earlier days taunts were taken seriously and as inspirational, but currently they are considered insults. So elders must also change with time.

Kids are easily attracted to Technology or anything that is Hardware-Software that gives our light and sound, Use it to explain things and how and what our history was, What we are supposed to do, What we are supposed to follow.

But telling them “what” is just not sufficient, they are more intelligent than we are they ask “Why” and “Who”.

just don’t tell them vague answers as ”They say…” or “I never asked such questions to my elders. I just used to follow them, so stop asking them stupid questions..” explain them with story. Take them to camping and in the excuse of telling them stories try to tell the very same concept bound in a story and make sure that they follow it.

As I mentioned above that kids tend to copy what the elders do, they try it when there is no one with them like smoking and indulging in bad habits, and elders must never induce the hate towards other caste or religion into the children. It will effect them in a negative way. No child is born with any feeling of caste or religion, it is the humans who induce it into them. Let the world change and be free but you must also change with the world.

What I posted above is just my view on how I personally could have liked my parents to have been to me,

Inspired by my friend to write it. Thank you my friend. Smile

The post is just my own view and is NOT to influence anyone. The above post is purely from me and maybe crude and not refined as my other posts are. The above mentioned points are applicable to teenagers also since they are partial kids.

You need this…

I knew of a story of a poor guy called Jack from a Town called Bournsville. He was so poor that he was ready to do anything to get money, but thoe he worked hard, he remained poor. He had a friend called Simon, one day evening after work Simon and Jack were sitting and discussing of their day. Jack was frustrated at his plight and Simon who really wanted to help him told him “Jack my friend, I heard that the neighboring village of  Oaksridge give away land on which you keep your feet on. Why don’t you give there a try?”. Jack said “Thanks my friend, I will set for the village.”.

Jack packed up all his meager things and started to walk to Oaksridge.

At Oaksridge,

Jack : Where is the village headman?

Villager: He lives the house that has wooden fencing and his name is Paul McMammer. But why do you want to meet him?

Jack : I heard that this village will give the lands where all i set my feet upon. Is this true?

Villager : Yes it is true, but many people have lost their lives in doing so. I recommend you to go back and be happy with what you have.

Jack : Sorry, I have nothing if i go back, I will as well give a try here.

Villager : Well, its your wish my son. God bless you.

Jack goes to the village head’s house and knocks his door.

Paul : Who is there?

Jack : I am Jack and I come here to walk and claim the lands.

Paul : Ok. But are you sure you want to do that? Many people have lost their lives falling for that.

Jack : I have nothing to lose, what will happen if I give a try?

Paul : Ok you can take the guest room and stay for the night. We will start tomorrow.

Next day..

There was gathering of villagers at the village square,

Paul : Here are the Conditions Jack..

All the land where you walk upon will be yours, You must return before evening or else you will lose all your lands.

Jack : Yes

And he set off..

he walked past meadows and lakes.. over valleys and fields.. it was noon and he thought “Its just noon and i think i have already have enough to live all my life, But that green pastures looks beautiful and those horses too. I will walk past them so that i can own them as well.”

so he kept walking and it was almost evening when he reached a forest, Another thought passed his mind “I cant take the whole forest but i can walk little ahead and claim a part of the forest that contains medicinal plants” with that thought he entered the forest. Barely he walked for some time, a tiger saw him and he was killed.

The villagers waited for him for a long time and towards night fall the set a search party out and the party returned the next day with his remains.

Paul burying his remains : All a human needs is just 6 feet of land, Greed takes it all.

———————————— The End—————————————-

Now that was an interesting story, and what did we see? when Jack was satisfied with what he already owned, he wanted more since there the things ahead him were more attractive than the ones he already had. Just the same way in our lives, we have a home, food to eat, a decent job, earnings, and all the luxury of life to live, yet we crave for more and are not satisfied with what we have, we say “look that guy has this and that, wish i have those as well.” and that little poisonous thought will force you give away all the little happiness that you have and finally there will be nothing left for you, only to think “Oh why did I pay attention to such a silly thought.”

As the saying goes “Prevention is better than Cure” there is something interesting in this and I am sure you people must have failed to notice that you already know. Its nothing great, Prevention, have you heard of anyone telling “this cannot be prevented” ?? I don’t think so. Rarely when this is a dialog in movies, but in reality, did you? I did not. but i surely have heard people saying “This cannot be cured”. does that ring a bell? I am sure it will, but you just cant prevent such thoughts simply, but you have the choice of diverting it. Think like this, “That guy has that thing, so what? do I need it? am i happy without it?” If your answer is yes, you will find that the silly thought wearing off like melting ice.

Let me give you another example, You have a phone that is simple one. You can make calls and send messages and can stay connected with people, You have received some money as gift and by chance you happen to see a nice brand new phone in the market that has more features than just calling and messaging, Media player, Bluetooth, Camera, Radio, GPS, The list goes on and you have enough money to buy it. Will you buy it? make a list of things that you will be using, Media player to listen to songs when you are on the move, then? Camera? you have a nice camera at your home and you say this camera in the phone is not nice, then Radio? when I have a media player whats the need for radio? and GPS? I know all the way around my home and if I lose my way, if i call my mom or dad they will come and pick me up.

So why do you need that phone? cant you just buy a MP3 player thats more economical and that also can be used as a portable data carrier. Useful it will be and economical.

The rest money you can invest wisely and buy something else that you might need in the future.

But at the same time, I must say that having wants is good. Confusing? well, it will be. Too much of want is not good, but limited wants are something that you need to progress in life. Still confused? let me tell you the life of two persons who are different, One is a rich guy who is rich like Ambani or the Tatas, and a normal person like you and I,

What we need? we have aspirations, we want to earn more, we will study, we will get promotions at jobs, we have something to celebrate at every step of life.

Now the life of children who are rich, They have money always surrounding them since their family business is earning them enough to spend a lot and get the latest things in  life, since they are already having everything, they will have nothing else to go up, so they take to bad habits of drugs and alcohol, smoking and going into bad ways of life and finally ruin their health and die early.

whereas we have some goal set ahead immediately and we wont stop and have time for all such thoughts, but the third person who we are not supposed to forget. He is a person with a thought “I have earned enough, I have shelter, food and clothing, I don’t need anything else in life” such people are more dangerous, they neither progress nor let others progress, so keep away from such people and thoughts because it will ruin your progress.

Finally, its your thoughts that will control your life, so have clear thoughts, be clear of what you want to achieve, having multiple targets may also fail if you have only one arrow and can hit only one target. So in the process take care of your health, oh that reminds me of a fourth person, He is so obsessed with progress that he worked hard and forgot the health of himself and his family and finally when admitted to hospital for illness, he lost all his savings and earnings only to pay the health expenditures, so better be careful.

When I say thoughts control you, I don’t mean merely thoughts, but action and willpower put together with hard-work and patience. It pays you in gold.

And when thoughts arrive at your mind? when you see, hear and feel things. so be careful of what to see, hear and feel, even your talk will give you away and take away your progress, discuss your future plans with someone who you trust like your parents since you don’t want someone jealous of your progress know of your plans and ruin it, do you? I don’t think so.

This drives me to tell you something about Gandhiji’s three monkeys, You are sure to have heard of it, anyways here is the picture..

but what I saw at a army camp was of the very same three monkeys, but they were quite different,

the first one that has its mouth closed remained as it is, the second monkey that has its eyes closed, had binoculars and the third monkey that has covered its ears was listening keenly to everything. The monkeys said :

I Listen to EVERYTHING

I See EVERYTHING

I Speak NOTHING!!

The soldier nearby explained me what it meant,

He said “You must know everything but you must keep your mouth shut and pretend not to know anything, who knows who might be observing you to take advantage of you and your mouth will give you away since its the only thing that gives you away, so be careful to use it.”

From that I want to say that your surroundings influence your thoughts, so keep everything clear, nothing is wrong in asking (as long as its not irritating or personal) but be careful when replying to questions, when you don’t want to answer, just give a smile and say that you don’t know or that you don’t want to answer that question. If the person persists, just leave that place with a sweet “excuse me”.

The soldier also explained me that there was a fourth monkey, that will be behind every highest official in any place or sector or base, a monkey written “Boss is Always Right” which means that there is no one to challenge his orders. His orders are final and even if you are more qualified than him, still you follow him even if you know he is wrong.

But I think, there is something good and related to our life and just take the positive points. Your parents are the official with the fourth monkey, but they ask you for professional advises when needed. So isnt this better? you get the best of everything!

So, keep your thoughts and goals clear and you will know what you need and what to achieve, and always follow what your parents say for it is always for your good.

Recovery

I am writing back after a long time.. The time not spent updating the blog due to various reasons expanded..

Now i have found a solid reason to continue with my blog.. Thanks to my ‘Childhood Friend’ and a person’s qualities I am a great fan of.. (advice : Be a fan of the qualities and not the person)

So the discussion was quite interesting there.. many topics passed and each one relating to another.

Lets start now.. The first topic was about a tank of water.

the saying goes like this..

“Oka akka (B bhai), oka anna(S bhai), Oka amma, kondaru pillalu, konni mokkalu, tank lo neellu. :)”

taken from http://www.kamscolumn.com (the person’s qualities i am a big fan of.. :P)

the literal translation is like this..

“one elder sister, one elder brother, one mother, some kids, some plants, water in the tank”

the saying is in Telugu and carries a lot of meaning and derivations and it means something more and special to the ones who are actually in it.

lets get this straight.

It is actually a comedy to the people who live in that house. and the very house means a lot to me. I understood what the joke is all about but could not enjoy it. There is a vast difference between understanding and enjoying the same thing and understanding is simply not enough to enjoy.

We can have a lot of derivations from that sentence. and it starts with a tank of water.

Water is the basis of life. Life comes into existence when there is water. but happiness? will it really come when you have life? I don’t think so. A mother cannot be happy if she is away from her children. and the children will be happy if they have toys and nature to enjoy and learn. the children when related to each other like brothers and sisters, the elder ones help the younger ones to come up acting in the place of mother.

It again starts with water where people live in a apartment thats full of families and trees. again it starts with water. they need water to survive and thus the people come and stay there, the value of property increases.

In the movie “Operation Condor” the last scene will surely make you realize that the worth of water is more than the worth of gold.

Talking of water and family, take the very twin-city grew on the source of Hussainsagar lake. and now the city has grown so big that the water is just as good as useless as the people trying to clean it and the very people around it forgot that once upon a time that this was the very source that helped them survive here and the very people failed when its time for paying back the tribute to the lake by cleaning and maintaining it. Had there been no water source from that lake, there would have been no life but misery and deaths due to droughts and famines.

as I discuss of life, There is death too.

There is equal probability that a person might live or die at the moment.

and speaking of life and death, the cycle of life and death and the faith that there is life after death, what is it? is it true that there is life? if so, where is it? is it in the same earth or after a period in heaven? one will never want to return to earth after experiencing the pleasures in heaven. but those who lived in hell. i am sure will want to come back to earth and make up for what they have done.

Many people have their own version of the very topic just like the one as discussed above. and i personally have three different versions of interpreting the same sentence. So maybe that misinterpretation is also considered as just-another-interpretation.

whether its right or wrong, interpretation is interpretation of the individual from the individual’s point of view and many people have their own views which seems that they are right in their own view but sometimes it so happens that wrong interpretation is more convincing that the actual interpretation or what it actually supposed to mean.

Talking about spirituality and being. No Child born will have the feeling of caste and religion and creed in them. nor there is any type of differentiation when they were born. yet people or the so called elders put the very feeling into them about the caste and religion. then why is the difference? is people from different religion are from different directions and are blinded by their own direction? knowing that they are heading nowhere still fighting for nothing?

People say that god is everywhere and watching us all. and its the same people who curse the god if they get any stumble in life. is this fair? you praise when he helps you and curse him when he leaves you? and the very people say that one must not be selfish yet they are.

they are just my opinion and not to promote anything.

people from all religion must eat, drink water and sleep, everyone must have shelter, everyone must earn. every person has his or her own goals, then where does religion comes in the middle when people are busy?

I say that one must not ignore god but one must be fair with him. When he helps you achieve your own goals, its up to you to go ahead and help others who are lagging behind you so that you can bring heaven to earth. where everyone is treated equally and where there is fair and justice, whats the need of force and power? one can live happily from birth to death in a place called earth where everyone gets their own chance to make a mark of their presence here. enjoy here. and live here.

The Actual Right To Education Bill Can Be Downloaded Here :- Right To Education

Some Facts..

  • The number of out-of-school children has declined from 25 million in 2003 to 8.1 million in mid-2009. The most significant improvements have been in Bihar, Jharkhand, Manipur and Chhattisgarh.
  • The percentage of out-of-school children in highly populated states like Uttar Pradesh, West Bengal, Orissa and Bihar remains a cause of concern.
  • There has been tremendous progress in improving access with 99 per cent of habitations having a primary school within one kilometer, and 92 per cent an upper primary school within 3 kilometers.
  • There have been considerable improvements in the proportions of children from socially disadvantaged groups enrolled in school. For Scheduled Caste (SC) students, 19.7 per cent were enrolled in 2008-2009, with 11% enrolled for Scheduled Tribe (ST) students.
  • The proportion of ST children at upper primary level is much lower, indicating that ST children are more vulnerable to dropping out from the school system. As many as 23.4 per cent of Muslim school children are out-of-school.
  • 84 out of 100 schools have drinking water facilities overall in India. But nearly half the schools in Arunachal Pradesh, Assam and Meghalaya do not.
  • 65 out of 100 schools have common toilets in India; however only 1 out of 4 schools in Arunachal Pradesh, Assam, Chandigarh, Delhi, Jammu & Kashmir, Jharkhand, Orissa and Rajasthan have this facility.
  • 54 of 100 schools have separate toilets for girls. On an average, only 1 in 9 schools in Assam, Meghalaya, and Manipur have separate toilets and 1 in 4 schools in Bihar, Chhattisgarh, Jammu & Kashmir, Jharkhand and Orissa.
  • The RTE Act has specific provisions for disadvantaged groups, such as child laborers, migrant children, children with special needs, or those who have a "disadvantage owing to social, cultural, economical, geographical, linguistic, gender or such other factor."
  • Creative and sustained initiatives are crucial to train more than 1 million new and untrained teachers within the next five years and to reinforce the skills of existing teachers to ensure child-friendly education.
  • School Management Committees, made up of parents, local authorities, teachers and children themselves, will need support to form School Development Plans and monitoring. The inclusion of 50 per cent women and parents of children from disadvantaged groups in these committees should help overcome past disparities.

Some FAQs..

Q. Why is the RTE Act 2009 significant and what does it mean for India?

A. The passing of the Right of Children to Free and Compulsory Education (RTE) Act 2009 marks a historic moment for the children of India.
This Act serves as a building block to ensure that every child has his or her right (as an entitlement) to get a quality elementary education, and that the State, with the help of families and communities, fulfils this obligation.
Few countries in the world have such a national provision to ensure both free and child-centered, child-friendly education.

Q. What is ‘Free and Compulsory Elementary Education’?

A. All children between the ages of 6 and 14 shall have the right to free and compulsory elementary education at a neighborhood school.
There is no direct (school fees) or indirect cost (uniforms, textbooks, mid-day meals, transportation) to be borne by the child or the parents to obtain elementary education. The government will provide schooling free-of-cost until a child’s elementary education is completed.

Q. What is the role envisaged for the community and parents to ensure RTE?

A. Few countries in the world have such a national provision to ensure child-centered, child-friendly education to help all children develop to their fullest potential. There were an estimated eight million six to fourteen year-olds in India out-of-school in 2009. The world cannot reach its goal to have every child complete primary school by 2015 without India participation.
Schools shall constitute School Management Committees (SMCs) comprising local authority officials, parents, guardians and teachers. The SMCs shall form School Development Plans and monitor the utilization of government grants and the whole school environment.
RTE also mandates the inclusion of 50 per cent women and parents of children from disadvantaged groups in SMCs. Such community participation will be crucial to ensuring a child friendly "whole school" environment through separate toilet facilities for girls and boys and adequate attention to health, water, sanitation and hygiene issues.

Q. How does RTE promote Child-Friendly Schools?

A. All schools must comply with infrastructure and teacher norms for an effective learning environment. Two trained teachers will be provided for every 60 students at the primary level.
Teachers are required to attend school regularly and punctually, complete curriculum instruction, assess learning abilities and hold regular parent-teacher meetings. The number of teachers shall be based on the number of students rather than by grade.
The state shall ensure adequate support to teachers leading to improved learning outcomes of children. The community and civil society will have an important role to play in collaboration with the SMCs to ensure school quality with equity. The state will provide the policy framework and create an enabling environment to ensure RTE becomes a reality for every child.

Q. How will RTE be financed and implemented in India?

A. Central and state governments shall share financial responsibility for RTE. The central government shall prepare estimates of expenditures. State governments will be provided a percentage of these costs.
The central government may request the Finance Commission to consider providing additional resources to a state in order to carry out the provisions of RTE.
The state government shall be responsible for providing the remaining funds needed to implement. There will be a funding gap which needs to be supported by partners from civil society, development agencies, corporate organizations and citizens of the country.

Q. What are the key issues for achieving RTE?

A. The RTE Act will be in force from 1 April. Draft Model Rules have been shared with states, which are required to formulate their state rules and have them notified as early as possible.
RTE provides a ripe platform to reach the unreached, with specific provisions for disadvantaged groups, such as child laborers, migrant children, children with special needs, or those who have a "disadvantage owing to social, cultural economical, geographical, linguistic, gender or such other factor." RTE focuses on the quality of teaching and learning, which requires accelerated efforts and substantial reforms:

  • Creative and sustained initiatives are crucial to train more than one million new and untrained teachers within the next five years and to reinforce the skills of in-service teachers to ensure child-friendly education.
  • Families and communities also have a large role to play to ensure child-friendly education for each and every one of the estimated 190 million girls and boys in India who should be in elementary school today.
  • Disparities must be eliminated to assure quality with equity. Investing in preschool is a key strategy in meeting goals.
  • Bringing eight million out-of-school children into classes at the age appropriate level with the support to stay in school and succeed poses a major challenge necessitating flexible, innovative approaches.

Q. What is the mechanism available if RTE is violated?

A. The National Commission for the Protection of Child Rights shall review the safeguards for rights provided under this Act, investigate complaints and have the powers of a civil court in trying cases.
States should constitute a State Commission for the Protection of Child Rights (SCPCR) or the Right to Education Protection Authority (REPA) within six months of 1 April. Any person wishing to file a grievance must submit a written complaint to the local authority.
Appeals will be decided by the SCPCR/REPA. Prosecution of offences requires the sanction of an officer authorized by the appropriate government.

Q. How does RTE translate into action and become a reality?

A. Substantial efforts are essential to eliminate disparities and ensure quality with equity. UNICEF will play an instrumental role in bringing together relevant stakeholders from government, civil society, teachers’ organizations, media and the celebrity world.
UNICEF will mobilize partners to raise public awareness and provide a call to action. Policy and programme design/implementation will focus on improving the access and quality education based on what works to improve results for children. UNICEF will also work with partners to strengthen national and state level monitoring bodies on RTE.